The Science of Emotions & Relationships
Mar 29, 21 | 01:41:01
In this episode, I discuss the biology of emotions and moods in the context of relationships. I focus on the science of how early infant-caregiver attachment, combined with adolescence and puberty shape our adult patterns of attachment. I explain the three universal aspects of emotions, the reality of right-brain versus left-brain personalities, and how the roots of adult attachment are also grounded in specific aspects of puberty. I review what factors determine when puberty starts and ends, and the role of oxytocin and other chemicals in controlling how we perceive and remember others. As always, I refer to various practical tools including new tools for understanding and predicting our emotions before they occur, and neurochemicals that shape human connection.
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Timestamps
00:00:00 Introduction
00:00:32 Sponsors: AG1, LMNT & Waking Up
00:05:10 Announcing New Cost-Free Resources: Captions, NSDR Link
00:07:40 Emotions: Subjective Yet Tractable
00:10:53 To Understand Your Emotions: Look At Infancy & Puberty
00:15:21 Your First Feeling Was Anxiety
00:17:36 What Are “Healthy Emotions”?
00:19:03 Digital Tool For Predicting Your Emotions: Mood Meter App
00:21:08 The Architecture Of A Feeling: (At Least) 3 Key Questions To Ask Yourself
00:24:00 You Are An Infant: Bonds & Predictions
00:27:57 Attachment Style Hinges On How You Handle Disappointment
00:32:40 “Glue Points” Of Emotional Bonds: Gaze, Voice, Affect, Touch, (& Written)
00:36:34 “Emotional Health”: Awareness of the Interoceptive-Exteroceptive Dynamic
00:37:50 An Exercise: Controlling Interoceptive-Exteroceptive Bias
00:42:19 Getting Out Of Your Head: The Attentional Aperture
00:46:59 Puberty: Biology & Emotions On Deliberate Overdrive
00:47:58 Bodyfat & Puberty: The Leptin Connection
00:50:34 Pheromones: Mates, Timing Puberty, Spontaneous Miscarriage
00:54:37 Kisspeptin: Robust Trigger Of Puberty & Performance Enhancing Agent
00:58:26 Neuroplasticity Of Emotions: Becoming Specialists & Testing Emotional Bonds
01:00:25 Testing Driving Brain Circuits For Emotion: Dispersal
01:07:48 Science-Based Recommendations for Adolescents and Teens: The Autonomy Buffet
01:11:05 “Right-Brain Versus Left-Brain People”: Facts Versus Lies
01:14:18 Left Brain = Language, Right Brain = Spatial Awareness
01:16:15 How To Recognize “Right Brain Activity” In Speech: Prosody
01:18:32 Oxytocin: The Molecule of Synchronizing States
01:20:09 Mirror Neurons: Are Not For “Empathy”, Maybe For Predicting Behavior
01:23:00 Promoting Trust & Monogamy
01:27:00 Ways To Increase Oxytocin
01:28:34 Vasopressin: Aphrodisiac, Non-Monogamy and Anti-Bed-Wetting Qualities
01:30:43 Bonding Bodies, Not Just Minds: Vagus Nerve, Depression Relief Via the Body
01:35:18 A Powerful Tool For Enhancing Range & Depth of Emotional Experience
01:36:43 MDMA and Other Psychedelic Compounds: Building A Framework
01:38:54 Roundup, Various Forms of Support