Science of Social Bonding in Family, Friendship & Romantic Love
Dec 20, 21 | 01:33:21
This episode I discuss the science of social bonding- the process by which we form attachments. I explain the neural and hormonal basis for "social homeostasis" (our drive for a given amount of socializing) which reveals why we get lonely, why we seek out connection with others and how power dynamics (hierarchies) shape those connections. I also discuss the neurochemical basis of introversion and extroversion, of trust and how shared experiences that promote similar physiological states in two or more individuals, leads to more rapid bonding. I also discuss how food and oxytocin play key roles in social bonding. This episode covers quality peer-reviewed science and practical tools for anyone seeking to find, build or end relationships.
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Timestamps
00:00:00 Social Bonding: Child-Parent, Romantic, Friendship, Breakups
00:03:10 Sponsors: AG1, LMNT & Waking Up
00:07:08 Social Bonding as a Biological Process
00:10:03 Social Isolation
00:13:32 Social Homeostasis & Neural Circuits for Social Drive
00:18:55 Brain Areas & (Neuro)Chemistry of Social Drive
00:22:48 What Is Social Homeostasis & Dopamine
00:27:00 When We Lack Social Interactions: Short- Versus Long-Term
00:28:10 Introverts & Extroverts
00:31:00 “Good” Versus “Bad” Social Interactions & Hierarchies
00:33:54 Loneliness & Dorsal Raphe Nucleus & Social Hunger
00:37:33 Tools
00:38:05 Socializing & Food Appetite: Crossover Craving
00:42:45 Falling in Love
00:45:05 Tools for Social Bonds: Merging Physiologies; Story
00:53:54 Childhood Attachment Patterns in Adulthood
01:03:45 Attachment Styles: Autonomic Versus Intellectual Attachment
01:06:10 Emotional Empathy & Cognitive Empathy, Arguing
01:09:45 Allan N. Schore & “Right Brain Psychotherapy”
01:10:40 Oxytocin & Trust, In Males Versus Females, Hormonal Glue
01:16:10 Repairing Broken Bonds to Self & Others
01:18:56 Social (Media) Butterflies: Biological Basis
01:24:08 Key Points for Bonding & Understanding Social Bonds
01:27:07 Breaking Up
01:28:36 Synthesis
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